In this solo episode, I reflect on how we can receive and process feedback while staying true to ourselves.
Processing feedback requires knowledge of yourself and knowledge of the source. I dig into a few thoughts there and share some of my personal stories that showed me how feedback we get – even if it is “negative” can point us to our superpowers or the things that we want to preserve or change about ourselves.
I also reflect on the messiness of feedback, including how some people will give you feedback that sends you where they want you to go and when positive feedback can be clouded by contemporary -isms.
One thing I bring up in the episode, also, is that while you are out here trying to grow, don’t be so quick to make things about you. I have seen situations where people in relationships are trying to express needs, but can barely get the words out before the listener is defending themselves.
For example, if a friend tells you they need more excitement in their life, would your first thought be “oh, so I’m not exciting?” Or say you are on a date and the person says they like a pretty calm life, but you are really high octane so it’s not a fit. Not being the right fit with that person doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you that needs “fixing.” I need you to know that someone saying what they need for themselves does not automatically mean they are pointing to a deficiency in you. Feedback is information that you can use to help further interrogate what you want to preserve or adjust about yourself and why.
Listen in to hear my reflections on praise and criticism, then share your thoughts with me here on on social media!
Episode Resources:
- Creativity, Inc.: Overcoming the Unseen Forces That Stand in the Way of True Inspiration by Ed Catmull & Amy Wallace
- When We Make It by Elisabet Velasquez
ABOUT KIESHA GARRISON
Kiesha Garrison is a Seattle, WA based professional emcee and public speaker. She leads high-impact events & conversations that spark positive personal, professional, and cultural shifts.
